Have you ever noticed how many words you say on average on the day? I do not mean the next SMS, WhatsApp, e-mail or phrases that you use in the chatroom. I’m talking about words that actually come over your lips. The astounding average is 16,000 words. Not bad, right?
Nevertheless, we say a lot of significant things much too rare. What do I mean by that? Here are 15 examples that we could all say if we only want it more often.
As you read this, you might think that this list is quite simple to implement. Hmm … I do not think so.
However, the positive effect of the following words and phrases is enormous, which is why they should be used much more often.
How often do you sit next to someone on the train, in the subway or in the waiting room, and you think: “Man, would be a nice conversation now.” How often do you feel nervous on the ground in a queue in the post office or in the bank, and you also observe yourself? Just saying “Hello” or “Hey” to the person next to you and to sacrifice a smile can suddenly destroy the dead day and create a pleasant atmosphere.
It is often very difficult to say “thank you”. Even if you “just” do someone a favor, you should at least say “Thank you”, because thanking makes both the one and the other feel good. How about just saying “thank you” to your co-workers, colleagues or family members when they do something for you. Even if you feel like a self-evident, thank you! “Thank you” to the girl at the checkout in the supermarket, if she wishes you a nice day, “Thank you” to the waiter who served you the food, “Thank you” to your wife when she has made food for you … This one word has so much strength And can do so much.
“Please” is a word which we usually associate with “thank you”. Possibly because both words were taught to us as a child. This little word turns a command into a request (a request), and makes people much happier to do this request. If you are going to have a coffee at Mac Donalds, do not just ask for a “small cappuccino”, but ask for a “please”. If you ask your partner at dinner to give you the salt, use “Please”. It has not only a great role model for children, it also reflects an act of courtesy and a fundamental level of respect.
“You can have my place”
Most of us can be lucky enough to be physically and mentally fit and to be able to sit in trains and buses without a risk. So if you see someone older, pregnant or physically handicapped, offer this person your place. If you are concerned that you can offend the person concerned, then justify the fact that “you have to get out anyway”, or with something mischievous like “you want to represent your feet”.
“The bill is on me”
You go out with a friend or an acquaintance and you take the bill without warning. The feeling of generosity is a very nice one, and for your friend just also feel a gift to get. But do not ask for your friend to show up next time. Then you did not understand the meaning.
“May I help you?”
If you see someone in trouble, offer him your help without waiting for a return. Some may reject you, but most will be moved and grateful. You will sweeten the day, which in turn will bring some joy into yours. A positive cycle of charity. You can offer help, eg:
- At a woman with baby scales
- When someone brings heavy luggage to the train
- If someone seems disorientated
- Who should have trouble reading a note or card
- “We do not know each other, but my name is …”
Many of us are not really good at imagining ourselves. When you meet someone new, stutter not only about the weather or say not only “Hello”; Imagine your name, and inquire about the other person’s name. It’s a bit embarrassing to talk to someone for 10 minutes before you said “I’m sorry, I do not even know their name”. Be self-confident and open-minded when you meet someone new. A quick introduction with your name can quickly establish a personal connection. This can be the first step in a future friendship.
“I have a mad passion for …”
So often, conversations are about matters of lesser importance, both for the speaker and for the listener. If you believe that all you are saying is “small talk”, try to go a bit deeper. This does not mean, of course, that you have to reveal your entire life story like Forrest Gump. But if you meet someone, it can not hurt to share some hobbies, passions and interests with the conversation partner. By confessing to private passions, you unconsciously increase your self-confidence, and you can never know whether you have a person of the same kind in front of you.
“I wish you a nice day”
Although a phrase like “A nice day still” is often used by sellers, it is still very much worth. Say it from the heart and honestly mean it. In the evening, when you leave your company or in the morning when you leave the house. Say it with sincere enthusiasm and you will almost certainly reap a smile and a “thank you, you too”. It is also a great way to end a conversation with exemplary courtesy.
“I am sorry”
If you made a mistake, then stand by. This is also good for your soul. It can not be changed anymore. Errors belong to it and they happen to everyone. A proverb says: “Stupid people always make the same and wise people getting new errors”. It is important to learn from it and to develop further.
“I forgive you”
Forgiveness and forgiveness freed from negative thoughts. Forgiveness is also called “let go”. Leave the old one behind and look into the future. If you can not do that, you can even get sick, because the inner balance can be destroyed so much that you suffer mental damage. So if we can not forgive others, we will inevitably hurt ourselves. Without forgiveness, no kind of interpersonal relationship can work. That is why one says: “Happy is who can forget.”
“I love you”
Almost to the end, but not least, the three important words “I love you”. Do you often say this to the people you love? Do you not only think about your partner but also your children, your parents or your grandmother? It is easy to assume that people simply know we love them, but sometimes the sound of these words can make a day really significant.
“I trust you”
It is always said that trust is the most important thing in the lives of two people, but how often do we truly tell our fellow human beings, or especially our partner, that we trust her or him? Just saying it really makes sense. Just like in “I love you”
Also a word that is used too rarely. And when you say it, you should (honestly) mean it!
“I understand you”
A sentence that should fall into any good discussion and in any conflict conversation at least 1 time. For if one does not understand his opposite, a constructive outcome of a conversation is not possible. Also very important in partnerships. In the last few months, I have become really aware that most people have very little understanding for their partner. Too bad, because that is a very important basic pillar in every relationship.
There are certainly a few things you can think of. Just share it with us as a comment.
Nice things you can not say and hear often enough!
November 19, 2016